I bought my wedding dress material today!!! The exclamation marks are not simply for excitement…
You’ll find that they strongly symbolise fear and the unknown, because I have NO idea whether what I bought will be appropriate when it comes to actually making the dress in Australia… So yes, I am getting married. Marriage huh? Who does that these days…?
My answer to that is –people who feel an unspoken pressure to make their parents proud by doing what they would deem as “the right thing to do”, and doing this thing that their parents see as “right” mainly to keep said parents comfortable with the relationship that the child is in and –people who want a chance to draw up, make and wear a very pretty dress :D I think I will always love a chance to dress up.
Point is that I love the romance of marriage, the whole wedding biz, but I don’t feel any need to get married. All it is for our society is a piece of paper. A legality. A useless legality these days too, considering the way that “legally” un-married couples and married couples are under the same kind of laws… eg, the whole defacto divorce thing. I mean, these people didn’t even get married!! But she still gets to take half of his things if they’ve been together for long enough… So. I am getting married. I love having the excuse to get everyone together for Love!! Even if I wasn’t getting married, I would still want to plan the event, just without the joining in holy matrimony. Less marriage, more love! Like a big fat love festival!! I use to dream of having a week long love-fest as a wedding… but now I realise that even a week long love-fest, however d.i.y you do it, would still cost me too much money that I don’t actually have and may never have… haha. Money :P I laugh in the face of money, and smile sometimes too when it manages to make me happy.
So, I could happily get married without getting married, if you get what I mean. Like, that I don’t need the piece of paper to commit my life to someone. In fact, the piece of paper means shit when you think that it’s possible to sign it without sincerely meaning it!! Bastard pieces of paper. There are too many of them out there…
Anyway, I’ve already committed my life to being a particular mans partner. And I’ll sign a silly piece of paper too one day, but not because I see much significance to it. Since when do I want to be so “legal”??!! And why would The Man want to know that I’m married anyway…? What’s it to him!? “The man” being the one that we all try to stick it to in our own way…
So the material I bought is nice enough. You’ve got to come to
I had to buy it now because I only have 24 days left here and I had recently realistically identified the fact that I have never done embroidery before, and probably wont be so quick or fluid with it to begin with, so decided to get some embroidery done here by an amazing organization called Gramshree. It’s an Income Generation Organisation that provides underprivileged women with excellent skills and work, they make such beautiful clothing and home wares!! So, it’s all for a good cause. Several good causes really, for me and for them J So, I started drawing up an embroidery design that was perfect for the sizing of the pieces and everything, and I have slowly started realising over the past 3 days that I actually COULD do it myself, quite easily. I was watching the women do it and, well, easy enough, but time consuming. I’m leaving it with Gramshree though. No need to screw them around. If they manage to NOT pull through then I will consider it an auspicious sign to go ahead with doing it all with my own hands.
I have a strong instinct to do things with love, with my hands. Particularly strong for all this wedding business. I will show you some other things that we are successfully trying to hand-do, maybe another day.
Enough about my Marriage/India/fabric/dress-making thoughts. Go look at something else now. But come back later…
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